Time Is On My Side
In this issue:
- Time Is On My Side
- Wednesday Evening Meditation
- Self-confidence: Success, Failure, and The Impostor Syndrome
- Good Reads
- ZBA Associates
Time Is On My Side
“In essence, all things in the entire world are linked with one another as moments. Because all moments are the time-being, they are your time-being.”
Zen teacher Dogen
From a talk in the year 1240, Japan
Many years ago, when I was a student living at Zen Center’s Green Gulch Farm, it was my welding teacher, Harry Roberts, who taught that the secret of welding is to see that the natural state of metal is actually liquid. By applying heat, we soften it to its original condition, and make it flexible, allowing it to be changed with little effort. Harry laughed as he told me this, and said this is the secret of being a human being as well. Our world, and time appear solid, he said. Our belief in this solid world leads us to act in ways that are similar to attempting to shape metal while it is hard. Instead, our minds and bodies are much more fluid than we usually assume; our world is less permanent, and more possibilities exist than we conventionally imagine.
I’ve noticed, for myself, my coaching clients, and for most people in my life there are many ways to fool ourselves about time. It was Albert Einstein who said, “…the separation between past, present, and future is only an illusion, although a convincing one.”
Another compelling illusion is that time is divided into our time and time that is not ours. The quote cited from Dogen reminds me of a story that another Zen teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh tells in one of his early books, The Miracle of Mindfulness, about a father who believes he never has enough time for himself. He feels many demands, including the demands of his young son who wants to play with him. After a good deal of anxiety, the father had an important realization – by letting go of the false distinctions he had been making, he understood that his time with his son is his time. He realized that everything he does is his time.
50% of Americans say they are busier this year than last year.
When asked what they would do if they had more time, a majority of Americans say they would work more; even if it meant sacrificing friends, family, and sleep for success.
Twenty years ago, 60% of U.S. families said they had regular sit-down dinners with their families. Today, 20% of families report having regular sit-down dinners.
What’s to learn from all this:
- Explore your assumptions about time and how these assumptions
- influence your actions and decisions.
- Enjoy your work.
- Enjoy your life.
- All time is your time — how could it be any different?
- Enjoy more meals with family and friends.
Here is a wonderful video, a talk by Philip Zimbardo on Secret Powers of Time.
And, just because I could not resist – Mick Jagger and the Rolling Stones performing Time Is On My Side on the Ed Sullivan Show.
With best regards,
Wednesday Evening Sitting Group
Meditation in Mill Valley on Wednesday evenings at Homestead Valley Community Center.
6:45 Doors open
7:30 Walking meditation
Everyone is welcome; no experience necessary.
No charge. Donations appreciated.
Bring your own cushion. Chairs available.
Self-Confidence: Success, Failure, and The Imposter Syndrome
The “Imposter Syndrome” refers to a condition in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments, and carry fear about being discovered as not deserving of their role or position. Apparently this is a very common phenomenon in many walks of life — business leaders, graduate students, and performers. In my coaching practice, and in my own experience, it appears that almost everyone has experienced these feelings in a variety of forms. I’ve heard that there is some evidence that the more successful people in business become, the more they harbor these feelings of being imposters
Here is a short piece I recently wrote for The Huffington Post called Self-confidence: Success, Failure and the Imposter Syndrome.
LESS: Accomplishing More By Doing Less
Antidotes to busyness, and tools and practices for living a more calm, meaningful, and productive life.
“I hope that doing less will enable you to determine, each day, what your true productivity and contribution can be.”
“We need to learn how to turn each day into an opportunity not only for sustained productivity but for composure and enjoyment, which can actually lead to more sustained productivity.”
– excerpts from Less
A Geography of Time, by Robert Levine – Exploring time and our perceptions of time – how do we view time; what are our assumptions; how do culture, geography, and population influence time?
Influencer, The Power to Change Anything, by Patterson, Grenny, Maxfield, Mcmillan, and Switzler – Make the undesirable desirable, surpass your limits, harness peer pressures, find strength in numbers, design rewards and demand accountability, change the environment
Executive Coaching and Outsourced Talent Management
Call on ZBA Associates LLC for your Executive Coaching, teambuilding needs, for keynote presentations, or to facilitate your offsite retreat. We help business leaders redefine and achieve success by integrating leadership and communication skills with mindfulness practices.